My Broken Places
24 April 2008The whole IVF process can be quite overwhelming at times. My emotions can run high not just because of the hormones, but also because it’s a difficult journey. Sometimes I get resentful of Drew because he doesn’t understand what I’m going through. He’s very logical about the process. I don’t think any man can understand what it’s like to feel failure every month when pregnancy doesn’t occur. I don’t believe any woman who hasn’t dealt with infertility can either. That said, as easy as it may be to say “You just don’t understand”, I can never fault him for not trying.
He listens to me when I need an ear, he’s a shoulder when I need one to cry on, and he takes really good care of me when I don’t care about myself. He’s a good man and I’m very fortunate to have him in my life. If you don’t already, check out his blog here: Brevet
on April 24th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
It’s really hard for me not to respond with a joke to deflect the compliment. Here’s the first 4 I came up with….
1) This Drew fellow sounds like a great guy!
2) What’s a Brevet?
3) I think we should all ask ourselves every day, “What would Drew do? (WWDD)”
4) Don’t hate the playa, yo!
Thanks, though. The kind words mean a lot to me.
on April 25th, 2008 at 11:40 pm
I think you are right. Some of the things you write about really emotional just to read, I can’t imagine what it’s like to be the person going through it all. You are in my thoughts, my friend, the infertility war veteran.
on April 26th, 2008 at 7:00 am
Thanks. I read many blogs about the infertility journey others have traveled - multiple proceedures, miscarriages, etopic pregnancies - and I hurt for them when I read their blogs. Strange times…
on April 26th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
Amy,
Sounds like you have a keeper there. My husband is super-logical about the whole thing too, and certainly does not have the understanding of the process that yours does (despite being close to done with the second round of IVF). But, isn’t it great to have someone along for this tough journey who loves you? We’re both very lucky. : ) Thinking good thoughts for you on this cycle.
on April 27th, 2008 at 4:17 pm
Yes - he is a keeper for sure. It’s hard enough to go through, but would be even tougher to have a partner who was unsympathetic to the cause.
on April 29th, 2008 at 10:41 am
Amy,
I just happened upon your blog…sounds like your Drew is a keeper. It’s nice to have someone who tries to “get it” even though they really can’t. Means the world to me that my DH tries.